Unplanned Pregnancy

My body,

My choice! 

If you've found yourself on this page looking for help, I hope you're okay - unplanned pregnancy can be one of the most stressful times in a woman's life. Not all contraceptive methods are 100% effective, and Marie Stopes estimate that around half of all pregnancies in Australia are unplanned, so you're not alone (2018)! Whatever you're feeling is normal, whether it be any combination of excitement, fear, uncertainty, frustration or anxiety. It's also completely normal to be absolutely certain, or completely unsure of what you want to do, which can sometimes be exacerbated by confusion surrounding the system that's in place to help you. 

Whether you've decided you want to continue with the pregnancy, or you're opting towards a termination, the first thing you should do is talk to someone: your partner, a friend, a parent - just someone you trust. Who you tell is up to you, but it'll be much easier if you're not going through this alone. 

Some things you should know:

  • It's up to you what you chose to do - it's your body, so it's your choice. 

  • Pregnancy is measured from the date of your last period, so don't be surprised if your pathology results tell you that your further along than you thought in terms of dates. 

  • Signs and symptoms can be different for everyone, however across the board they usually include:

    • Nausea​

    • Breast tenderness

    • Vaginal discharge

    • Loss or increase of appetite

    • Weight gain

    • Sleeplessness

    • Fatigue

(Victorian State Government, 2018).

Where to start?

If you haven't already done one, you should do an at home pregnancy test. You can pick one up one at the chemist or a supermarket (tip: if you're feeling uncomfortable about purchasing one, use the self checkout at the supermarket) - any brand will do, really! It's best to wait until your period is a week or two overdue; if you do it too soon the pregnancy hormone levels, human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG), may not be high enough to be detected in your urine, and the test will come back negative even though you may actually be in the very early stages of a pregnancy. Follow the instructions that come with the test, but for the most part you'll need to have a huge amount of water to drink, and urinate onto the tip of the test or into a small container. The tests take a couple of minutes to come back with the results, so take a few deep breaths, listen to your fave song, or pace up and down the hallway - whatever you need to do to pass the time. 

What to do next?

The test comes back negative:

The test comes back positive:

What you do now really depends on whether you've decided to continue with the pregnancy, proceed with termination, or if you're still not sure. Given this is most definitely a sensitive topic, we've separated each into their own page. Follow this links for more information. 

Continuing with the pregnancy




Making up your mind

Page References

Marie Stopes. (2018). Contraception Options and Methods. Retrieved December 2018, from: https://www.mariestopes.org.au/contraception/

Victorian State Government. (2018). Pregnancy Signs and Symptoms. Retrieved December 2018, from: https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/HealthyLiving/pregnancy-signs-and-symptoms

Stephanie Says acknowledges the traditional custodians of the land on which we live - the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We acknowledge their Elders past, present and emerging. Always was, always will be Aboriginal land. 

Note: Stephanie Sayss is not run by medical professionals. This platform is an educational tool only, and not intended to be used for medical advice. Always seek the assistance of a doctor - this platform is intended to be used a tool to assist you in doing so.

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